Ambivalence means having different, sometimes opposing feelings or attitudes towards the same person, choice or possibility.
You want the opportunity. You also wanted a quiet month. You love someone and dislike an arrangement. You are relieved it ended and still miss them.
More than one thing matters. Annoying, isn’t it?
You may try to settle the conflict by deciding which response is the real one. But the wish to accept a project and the wish to rest may both be honest. Choosing doesn’t necessarily make the other wish disappear.
A fuller decision can include what you gain, what you give up and what will need care afterwards. That is different from demanding emotional unanimity before you act.
All of Me, a guided seven-day book in the Sensual Hero’s Journey, explores bringing conflicting responses into the same conversation. You can want a clear decision without requiring every part of you to cheer.
Values conflict looks at choices between things you genuinely care about. Mixed feelings stays closer to the emotions that can remain after the choice is made.
Noba’s Emotion Experience and Well-Being offers a wider account of emotional life. It is a useful companion when you are tempted to treat a complicated response as proof that you don’t know yourself.