Autobiographical memory is your memory of your own life: particular events and the knowledge and stories through which you recognise your history.
A remembered event and the conclusion you’ve built around it aren’t necessarily the same thing.
"I’ve always been like this" leaves very little room to move.
You say you’ve never been able to speak up. Then you remember a conversation in which you did.
That doesn’t erase the difficulty. It adds a detail the sentence had left out. Who was there? What support did you have? What made speaking possible then?
You aren’t required to replace a painful account with a cheerful one. You may need a more complete account, including the occasions that don’t fit its most familiar conclusion.
The Hidden Hero’s Journey explores identity through the domain House, one of its six domains. Its imagined rooms include ways to examine the stories through which you know yourself.
Narrative identity follows the larger story. Reconstructive memory explains why remembering isn’t the same as playing an unchanged recording.
Noba’s Memory: Encoding, Storage, Retrieval describes how memories are formed and retrieved. Read it for the process behind remembering, rather than treating the vividness of an autobiographical scene as a guarantee of every detail.